4 WINS AND 2 THINGS TO AVOID WITH RETREATS
When I started out in Student Ministry, over 14 years ago, I knew what I didn’t know. One of the things I knew I didn’t know was how to put together an effective weekend retreat. So, naturally, I looked around for retreats or weekend conferences I could just take my students to and let them do the work. Although, it was a lot easier on my end, I realized how difficult it was to find a retreat or conference that met the needs of my students. So after 8 years of trying conference after conference, and tracking the declining attendance from my students to those conferences, I decided to try my hand at planning my own retreat.
I’ve now completed 7 years of Retreat planning and execution. Throughout those years I have been able to adjust and make decisions that have made our retreat one of the best and most anticipated ministry events we do all year long. We have also seen our attendance increase by over 400% from the last conference we attended 8 years ago.
Here are our 4 best retreat wins and 2 things to avoid.
Get Small Group Leader Buy-In
This one is huge! The success of our retreat is tied heavily to our small group leaders buying into and going on the retreat. I tell all of our new leaders when I meet with them to block off the 2nd weekend of November for our retreat. Each year, we have about 95% of our leaders attend. This does a few things. First, It makes it easier to promote, as all of our small group leaders promote within the group and make it an emphasis. Second, it gives us plenty of van drivers. And three, it speeds up small group bonding in that they have 33 hours together with the students on the retreat. Throughout the weekend, we give 3 specific times where small groups meet and process together. Any new student that comes on the retreat also gets exposed to a small group. Hopefully this builds a connection for when they get home. Oh, and in order to get Small Group Leaders to Buy-In, makes sure you “buy” their retreat for them!
Hold the Retreat Over a Saturday & Sunday.
This may not seem like a big deal, but I quickly realized that having a retreat over a Saturday/Sunday, as opposed to Friday/Saturday, or even Friday-Sunday was a big deal. When we left on Friday, we lost a large portion of adult leaders because they had to rush to get off work and/or square their kids away for the weekend. Fridays also posed a headache for students and families because of Friday night sports and parents getting off work. When we changed to Saturday/Sunday, the floodgates opened! We also made sure the retreat location was not too far, so we didn’t waste time driving. While 33 hours doesn’t seem like enough time to have an effective retreat; when planned accurately, it’s plenty of time! Keeping the retreat at 2 days also cuts down on the costs. An always appreciated bonus for families.
Tie the Theme of the Retreat in with Weekly Programming.
This is something that helps bridge the retreat to our weekly programming. We essentially treat the retreat as 3 worship sessions and 3 small group sessions. Then our team plans a 4-week series, using the 4th session as our final week of programming. It ties the retreat in well and gets students a little more excited to come back on the final week, which has a little bit of a retreat feel to it.
Utilize Individual Quiet Time
If we’re being honest, many students don’t take the time to have a quiet time every day. We intentionally build that into our retreat, and teach them what it looks like to utilize that time with God. It’s a great learning moment, and it can be extremely practical. We give them the tools to read Scripture, pray, and even journal. For many students, this is the highlight of the weekend.
AVOID…Too Many Outsiders
Our first retreat, I hired a speaker and a band. It was a waste of money. The speaker was good, but the students didn’t know him, and in a setting where it’s only our church, it became more of a barrier. So, we now do our own worship and teaching. We save a lot of money, and the students don’t have to spend time getting to know us. The retreat becomes an extension of our programming. I’m not saying that it’s not beneficial to bring in a great communicator, but often times, we bring in so many outsiders to do a job that we’ve been gifted to do with the people we’ve been called to do it with.
Don’t plan a retreat at a time of the year where you can’t get any momentum. Utilize the timing of the retreat with a large follow up event the week after. Even though the retreat can be a stand alone event, it may best be used as a catalyst for your ministry. Use the event to teach, cast vision, and encourage your students for what’s ahead!
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