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Bullying and Blessings

Youth Specialties
January 15th, 2011

I still remember walking off the field.  I had terrible hair.  I mean really terrible hair.  It was in junior high and I had decided to get a perm.  I didn’t like it, so I used gel to flatten the crown of my head but there were still curls in the back and in the front.  I guess it was like a “party in the front and the back”! 

Anyhow, physical education class was over and there were some students saying some pretty hurtful things to me as we were heading back to the gym to clean up.  There was a small group in particular that were really cruel. I suppose it was because it was a small private school where sports were everything and I didn’t play.  I don’t really know.  But their poison hurt.  Deep.

Just then the coach walked over and put his hand on my back.  He said, “Are they talking to you?”

I nodded.

“Don’t listen to them.  They don’t know what they are talking about.  You are way better than that.  Don’t ever stoop to that level.”

That one moment stuck with me to this day.  I hated what those students represented to me and how they treated people and I never wanted to become like them… “to stoop to that level.”  I was later able to put scripture to that in 1 Peter 3:9.

“That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm. Instead, bless—that’s your job, to bless. You’ll be a blessing and also get a blessing.” (MSG) 

Bullying.  Teasing.  Saying horrible things to tear someone down for selfish gain or retaliation.  It’s so ugly.  I’m so thankful for the coach’s words that day.

As adults present in students lives… students that are bullied and fed lies that can be very destructive and painful, it is our privilege and calling to bless where others have cursed.

I honestly believe that I took a turn the day that Coach spoke into my life.  He told me to stop believing the lies and I did.  And I strive to be someone the repays evil with good.  Thanks, Coach!

Youth Specialties

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