You Matter To Your Spouse

January 14th, 2010

And for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be united firmly (joined inseparably) to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.  So they are no longer two, but one flesh.  What therefore God has joined together let not man put asunder (separate).”  Matthew 19:5-6, Amplified

When was the last time you thought about that verse, meditated upon those words?  Perhaps on the your wedding day when you held the hand of the person with whom you chose to spend the rest of your life.  As you gazed into his or her eyes, you promised to love, honor, and cherish that person–for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, as long as you both shall live.  You were no longer alone.  Two had become one flesh. 

The two of you would now travel the highway of life together forever.  Suddenly, you would matter to someone forever.

As you continue on this journey called marriage, you still matter to your spouse.  When you hurt, he or she hurts.  When someone attacks you, he or she is also attacked.  Every tear you shed is precious to him or her.  When you rejoice in life’s little victories, he or she rejoices with you.  Your smile lights up his or her world; your laughter lights up his or her heart.

Love bears up under anything and everything that comes is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything without weakening.”  1 Corinthians 13:7, Amplified

Despite your annoying habits, your shortcomings, and your failures, your spouse still loves you.  Only God could love you more.   Did you ever believe, in your wildest dreams, that someone could love you so much?  You can leave your laundry on the floor, forget to take the trash out, and snore when he or she trying to sleep yet your partner still loves you unconditionally.  The commitment you made to love your mate draws you closer to the heart of God, understanding His love for His Bride, and how He would sacrifice His very life for her sake.  It’s this same love that drives your loved one to give up his or her own will for the sake of your happiness, why he or she does little things to make you smile.  Your spouse wouldn’t do this for just anyone; he or she does it for you and you alone because you are one flesh, one love, and one life.

Just as you chose your spouse, you were also chosen.  Out of the millions of other people in the world, two souls were linked together in holy matrimony because you couldn’t bear to be without each other for the rest of your lives.  Your vulnerability in the marriage bed, your giving of yourself to passion and pleasure, and your desire matter to your beloved, too.  Such things can only and should only be shared in the intimate bonds of marriage, and for that you have chosen one another.  You share not only this mystery, but also your joys and sorrows, hearts and dreams, and vulnerabilities and transparencies.  He or she is there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on and to laugh with you over nothing at all.  You share a history, a love story, and a life that you travel together.  Know that your companion is yours forever and that you matter deeply, profoundly, and intricately to your spouse.


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